So Veda comes to my bedside this morning and says "Mom, my wish came true! I dreamed that Lukey D. came to my house to play. He came in and said "Veda where are your toys?" and then we played. But then he turned into a girl...and my heart was broken."
Lukey D. is a little boy at Veda's preschool. She just started going there the beginning of February and ever since all we have heard about is Lukey D. At first I thought it was cute that her favorite friend was this cute little local boy. Then she started saying Lukey D. rubs her back during rug time. At this point I started wondering if this is normal for preschool.
This morning when I took her in to school the teacher was gathering the kids for rugtime (their structured learning time when they all sit on the rug together and listen to a lesson) Veda wouldn't sit down. I told her to go sit down on the rug and she whispered in my ear "I want to wait until Lukey D. sits down so I can sit next to him." When I picked her up a little girl came running up to me and said "Auntie, Lukey D. wants to kiss Veda!!" I thought I was going to pass out. I didn't even have a second thought about kissing a boy until I was in 5th grade!!! Flashes of a pregnant 12 year old Veda flashed before my eyes. When we got in the car she said "Mom, I'm going to kiss Lukey D." GULP!
IS THIS NORMAL??? How do I handle this? Do I totally blow it off? Or tell her that she is too little to kiss boys? I don't want to make a "deal" out of something that is no big deal. Do I give her a talk, or let the phase pass on it's own?
Please - mothers who have dealt with this, tell me what to do!
Dude - we are going on FAIRYTALE DETOX. No more Disney Princess movies for a year.
Thursday, February 21, 2008
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Wow, Mom might be the youngest great-grandma ever. Kidding, sorry. I've been thinking (and giggling just a little) about your dilema. Call me back and we'll discuss.
i am so cracking up about the fairytale detox. i think they are dangerous!
Hi there! I'm just making my way over from Carey's blog and I'm stunned! I have a preschooler too and you've got me all freaked out now. lol
I have not yet had to deal with my girl being "in love", though once I saw a boy say he didn't want to sit by a girl because she had cooties. I was surprised to even see THAT.
Hmm... If she's really into princesses try to use that to your advantage (while still phasing into more kid movies without such a strong dose of romance). Perhaps you could talk to her about becoming a princess? That there are certain things princesses do and don't do. The smile a lot, they don’t yell, they eat food with their mouth closed, they use manners, they don’t give away a kiss until they meet their “prince charming”, etc etc (This is all coming on the top of my head so I apologize if it sounds ridiculous.) Perhaps this could be brought up as a fun topic not directly in response to the kissing situation, so as to not make a big deal of it.
Ha! That's a pretty "rough draft" for you! But maybe it'll lead you to something you could use. Good luck!
Oh Kaycee that is too funny. I don't know what to tell you. I can see little boys loving sweet Veda. You just tell her that her Aunt Torrey will whoop her little bum if she starts kissing boys yet. I remember Emily telling me last year about all her "boyfriends" at school and I almost fell over. If I'm this protective about my nieces I better not have kids yet :)
Good luck Kaycee!! We had that whole thing with Merrit when she started preschool and she was three! Who knew preschool boys could be so dangerous?? I have no advice but tons of sympathy. Let me know how you handle it. I guess that's the breaks when you have beautiful children like Veda and Eve!:)
i got my first "kiss" in kindergarten, too. Scott was his name. and when he was in highschool, he was voted one of the hottest guys in America by Teen magazine. (remember that contest where readers submit pictures of their friends and brothers, and then everyone votes on her favorite?)
It's a point of pride for me that i could say, "hey, he kissed me!"
in all seriousness, at that age, i can't imagine they really understand much about kissing. perhaps you could ask Veda what it means when two people kiss...
Good luck, and let us know what happens!
Hey Kaycee,
Allie and Brody(some friends of ours, little boy) spent some time at the top of a slide Kissing at the ripe old age of 5. Poor Brody, his Dad FREAKED out and gave him a huge lecture, etc. Allie got the "only kiss the boy you truly love, and you should be at least sixteen" suggestion (not a lecture). I asked Allie about this the other day to see if she remembered it, She said that they were playing princess and prince, and it was no big deal. By the way, She wouldn't kiss Brody now if you paid her $100.00. I would chalk it up to one of childhood's phases. Good Luck. You're just beginning!!!!
::coming over from Carey's blog::
Hey KC!
I have a Kindergartner (girl) and there are only 3 girls in the class, and 17 boys. Yikes! She has told me since day one she has a TON of boyfriends. In fact, my oldest daughter has informed me she has caught my youngest holding hands with a boy. *groan* I didn't know what to do! Should I tell her the boys have cooties? LOL But instead, I talked to her about how we can like boys, but we shouldn't hold hands or kiss them until they're 16 years old (yes, my girls know the "16 years old" rule). I did tell her that if a boy wanted to kiss her, then to tell her she had to ask for permission first from her mom & dad. *snort* I don't think it would work... but I was clueless and caught off guard as well! Good luck!
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